I can’t remember the last time I felt butterflies in my stomach. I was wondering how it would feel to be a mother of a real baby. I remember rubbing the big belly of my tummy and trying to imagine what she would be like. I remember feeling nervous about the predicted sleepless night. I was grateful to be able carry a child and ready to stand up and sleep without grunting again. It was an exciting time to be expecting my first child, with a mixture of emotions. Now, six years later, I have a few things that I would like to share with a new mom.
You do. It’s been a privilege to be able to watch my children grow. You’ll see your child’s first smile just when you thought you were going to lose it.
The trenches are the first two years.
Do not compare the newborn experience with that of toddlers and young children. Do not compare your newborn child’s experience with that of another mom who is having her third baby. It’s best to stop comparing. Each baby is unique, as are all moms.
You won’t be able to complete any of the projects you planned to do during maternity leave.
You’re just not. It’s OK to be a baby! Baby’s sleep a great deal, but also need to eat and have their diapers changed frequently. You won’t feel rested or be at your best.
Your respect for your mother will grow.
You’ll see why she said you would never truly know how much she loved you.
You’ll sleep again.
It may not feel like it now, but it will. It’s only a season, so be kind to yourself. Take naps, drink coffee or watch Netflix.